I'm not over the DIVORCE issue yet..it still bothers me...and when I read again the previous articles I feel that I'm all for DIVORCE, sort of encouraging..hence I feel responsible to share the other side of story....
I had a chat with another friend last week, who's also a divorcee, she's been divorced for more than 7 years now. We used to be colleagues together with a friend who just got divorced recently, when I get to know her then she just finalized her divorce.
I know what she went through..of course then she told me she has made the right decision as infidelity involved...she moved on..lucky for her as she's financially independent..but I know for the first 3 years she still could not get over the husband, let alone the other woman is a celebrity which make it harder as she'll always been updated about the husband's new life.
From the conversation with her last week, she said..she's against divorce 100% if no third party involved. She said regardless how much money you have, the kids need a father figure in the house..men, once they are out of the house..hardly to find someone who is responsible enough to to be there for the kids when they are in trouble etc..all left to the ex-wife. Basically after the divorce you are left alone!!! Not to mention about nafkah and all..especially if they know the wife is financially secured..
In her case, her teenage daughter blaming her for the family wreckage, that her mother didn't fight hard enough for her daddy....simply giving up. Now, the daughter is in a relationship. The mother found out she's begging the boyfriend not to leave her and even willing to share the boyfriend, when asked, she told the mother.."i dont want to be like you..you gave up too easily..you didnt fight for daddy" shocking isn't it?????
See....you never know your action which you thought the best for the kids turned out otherwise..must be devastating for the mother..little that the girl know..the mother suffered 2 years before she finally filed for divorce..lost 15 kg during those period of tremendous turmoil..she will spend hours in the bathroom throwing up, when the husband went down to call the girlfriend at night..of course she didnt tell that to the kids to protect him as father figure..and yet..you are blamed:(
Her advice...as much as you can, try to work out especially if no abuse or other woman involved ..Divorce should not be an option!